About Annie Lane

Annie Lane

Annie Lane

Annie Lane grew up in California and headed east to graduate with honors from New York University, where she majored in English literature and specialized in psychology. She earned her Juris Doctor from New York Law School.

Since July 2016, Annie has offered common-sense solutions to everyday problems in her column, “Dear Annie.” Her advice is unusually perceptive. She is firm, funny and sympathetic, echoing the style of her biggest inspiration, Ann Landers.

Annie lives outside Manhattan with her husband, two kids and two dogs. When not writing, she devotes her time to play dates and Play-Doh. 

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Holding Firm on Boundaries With Estranged Family Apr 29, 2026

Dear Annie: I am a woman in my early 40s, living several states away from the town where I grew up. My relationship with my parents has always been complicated, especially with my mother, and for the last 25 years I have also been estranged from my o... Read More

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Splitting the Mental Load Makes for a Healthy Marriage Apr 28, 2026

Dear Annie: My husband is a wonderful man in many ways, but lately I feel more like the household manager than his wife. We both work full time, yet somehow I am still the one remembering birthdays, scheduling appointments, keeping track of the groce... Read More

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Choosing Peace Over an Endless Battle Apr 27, 2026

Dear Annie: I have read your responses to letters about barking dogs and neighborhood noise, and I appreciate the calm, compassionate way you approach these conflicts. You encourage people to start with empathy, assume good intentions and try to work... Read More

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Torn Between Sympathy and Self-Respect Apr 26, 2026

Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Kay," was once one of my closest friends. For more than 25 years, we were there for each other through everything: marriages, divorce, raising children, heartbreak and all the ordinary ups and downs of life. We never ha... Read More